![]() If you have a negative physical reaction when your spouse walks into the room, it's important to pay attention to what your body is telling you, says McMillan. We're referring to full on, heart rate rising stress. We're not talking the pitter patter of love. Sunny Joy McMillan, author of Unhitched says that once you start trying to push your spouse's threshold, it's possible that you subconsciously want to end things but are afraid to make the move.įor example, if you leave your computer open to an inappropriate (read: flirtatious) email exchange, you may secretly be hoping your spouse finds it so they'll initiate a conversation about why you've been unhappy. ![]() When you find that you're constantly testing how far you can push your marriage before it completely shatters, you're playing divorce roulette. "If fighting is more about pointing fingers, placing blame and the need to 'win,' the focus becomes power and not connection." And that, she says, is a red flag. "Ideally, you want a conflict to be resolved in a way that preserves the relationship," says Morris. complete detachment) may be one sign of impending divorce, the way you argue when you do have a disagreement is another indication. The biggest problem is when there's no fight left." Winning is everything. While not all fights are productive, it's healthy to be able to resolve arguments in a way that benefits the marriage, she says: "You fight for each other. "When you just can't be bothered anymore, it means something is missing," says relationship expert Dr. Silence and avoidance can be detrimental to a relationship. You never argue.īelieve it or not, you're supposed to argue. Here are the most common signs that you should consider divorce, and that you may be ready to move on to the next chapter of your life. "But if there's been too much neglect, damage, or depletion of all the 'nutrients' necessary to cultivate a healthy relationship, it may have reached its final expiration date." "Many relationships can be revived," says Robyn D'Angelo, marriage and family therapist and owner of the Happy Couple Experts of Orange County. But now, whether it's a matter of one too many arguments, trust-sapping infidelity, or something else entirely, you're clearly contemplating a permanent split. Or, perhaps you hope that the union's still got some fight left and you're not ready to leave. ![]() You might've chosen to overlook those first signs that divorce is the best move for one (or both) of you, and you've been coping with an unhappy relationship for some time. Deciding whether you're in a failing marriage that's beyond repair is obviously not a choice that comes easily-especially when you've put in the work to try and salvage what feels like a loveless partnership. ![]()
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